I just spent the last 5 minutes compiling a list of the things I don’t like about myself.
Hold on a sec…I’m not a masochist or anything, nor am I actively trying to make myself feel bad. I did it to prove a point. A point based on an idea that has been spinning around in my head for awhile now.
In 5 minutes I had quite a list. I readily know the things that I don’t like about myself…want to be better at…wish I could do…criticize myself for…etc. It was not a hard list to come up with.
Why can I immediately come up with a list like this? A list that tells me all the things I’m not. Why is it so easy?
And why, when trying to write personal statements, cover letters, or trying to answer interview questions on my BEST qualities or why I would be a good fit for such and such position, is it so difficult to come up with answers? Why does it feel so uncomfortable?
Want my opinion? Of course you do…that’s why you’re here right? (cue evil laugh)
The lives we live, chock full of outside influences and other people’s opinions, have created a negative voice in us. We allow so much ‘other’ to infiltrate our thinking. And we constantly compare ourselves to this ‘other’ letting it dictate our own worthiness.
…For example, I see a girl my age (or anyone really) running downtown and my negative voice immediately kicks in…”Mel, why aren’t you more athletic…why don’t you exercise and run around barely clothed in the heat of summer??? Huh? Why don’t ya????” (My negative voice is pretty darn annoying wouldn’t you say?) And all I can do is respond with an “ugh” and that guilty ‘should’ feeling just kind of bubbles up.
The thing is, I do this pretty subconsciously. I barely notice it. And I am betting it’s safe to say that I’m not the only one. Am I right to assume that if asked what you don’t like about yourself, you would have answers immediately? As you read this, are these answers running across your mind right now…? (If I’m wrong about this then teach me your ways ‘oh confident and self-assured one.’)
We all have ideas about what we should do or should be…
…but what about those positive ideas about who we are already?
What if someone were to ask you to tell them what you like about yourself? How long would it take you to have answers? Would you feel uncomfortable sharing them?
The answers are kinda sad aren’t they? (How many question marks in this post so far?)
So here’s the deal…I challenge you (and me) to come up with a list of things you like about yourself…
…In fact, Dwight Schrute challenges you. And we all know that Dwight K. Schrute is one confident human being.
“I am faster than 80% of all snakes.”
“How would I describe myself? Three words: hard working, alpha male, jackhammer…merciless…insatiable…”
“I signed up for Second Life about a year ago. Back then, my life was so great that I literally wanted a second one.”
“D.W.I.G.H.T – Determined, Worker, Intense, Good worker, Hard worker, Terrific”
“Sasquatches are the strongest animal on the planet so fine call me a Sasquatch!”
I challenge you to come up with this list without feeling the need/urge to be-little yourself. Don’t follow a positive statement with a “but I wish…I should be…I don’t…” just make a beautiful declarative statement about who you are and why you’re awesome. And then make another one. This is a list people…
…And if you so desire, leave some of these positive statements as comments to share with other readers.
Love and confidence to you all!